No rain, thank God. The sun’s not so bright and there’s some butterflies beyond. Beautiful day.
I’m sitting in our study and I can’t have the peace I want. There were children by the sea. They’re laughing, screaming even. They were guests of a neighbor from Manila and the sight of the sea delighted them. So much for silence.
Then I remember when I too was a child. I’ve got a cousin from Manila that I had to entertain. Brought her to the seaside, introduced her to friends and classmates and so on... I remember her.
“I don’t have any problems with my husband, I’m so lucky to have him” were the words I remember from the last time my cousin and I talk. She’s happy with her family, her life. Indeed, no sarcasm here.
I wonder sometimes, is it really necessary to marry someone to have a happy life? I am a single mother and though marrying crossed my mind, I really never go for it. I am happy, we are happy and I must admit we get lonely sometimes. But doesn’t married people get lonely too?
There are people I know who marry again after spouse’s death. Seems like they can’t live without a man or a woman. Maybe it’s love.
I call it dependency. Marrying is being committed to help, guide and be a shoulder to another person. One needs that because life may play a really bad joke on us and we may not be able to bear it alone, thus a husband / wife. Love’s not really a factor. Or maybe. But trust that when love alone is the basis of marriage, the joke will be on you.
Just a witness, haven’t experienced myself.
I choose to be a single mom and I have seen a lot of failed marriages. I know how to count and the percentage aint’ good.
Love is not something I abhor. I know I am capable of loving someone, other than my child. I remember being happy, delighted, excited one time and another.
There were times when I was so foolish, selfish and irritable because of love. I remember. Just that I don’t know the feelings anymore. Well thanks to romance pocketbooks and movies, I cry and laugh at times. I remember the love, the momentary joy, the mixed emotions. It was a happy feeling, and sad too.
I do believe in love, I just don’t think it should be the sole requisite to marriage... not my final word, the wind may blow to change the tide and shift my stand. :)
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